12 February, 2011

To be young, gifted and black....

On Monday, Feb 7th was my 38th birthday, I pause and allow you that moment to say 
Happy Birthday, Fawn


LOL!!, Ok thank you, thank you very much. I bow in appreciation.  I have mentioned before that I honestly never thought I would make it beyond my 34th birthday.  Why do I say such a morbid statement?  Well my mother passed at the young age of 34 from a brain aneurysm so I guess I just always felt that I would share the same fate.  Amazing the foolish things we embed into our brains.  Well I can honestly say I really didn't start living UNTIL 34!

At 34, I had my first child and for the past 3 years my life has been definitely a been love roller coaster.

My son has brought me so much joy and blessings within my life.  I remember how before he was born, I was just so unhappy and how since he has entered this world not only has he brought "sunshine to my life" but so many others.  When I learned I was pregnant I knew immediately what I would name him.  As pregnant mom's we bounce all these names around and to be honest even before then.  As women you dream of when you have children and pick out certain names; but I am here to tell you when that child gets here a lot of that gets scratched and thrown out the window, because as soon as you see your child's face -- you automatically know -- yes this is what your name will be.

I chose to name my son Dynzcil Benjamin Rhodes-Davis and before you incorrectly say his name let me help you, it sounds like PENCIL with a D.  Now say it and look at it, as you can see and hear the pronunciation.  People want to call my son DENZEL but he was not named after Mr. Denzel Washington, the honorable man he is, he was named after a more deserving man and that is my brother Keith.  Dynzcil is my brother's middle name and he was named after my mother's favorite Uncle.  Like my mother I chose to name my son's middle name after my favorite Uncle Carl Benjamin, Uncle Benny to me.  My son has such a dynamic personality and he just draws people in even at three years old!  I will not lie it his hard reeling him in sometimes but a child will be a child so I tend to let him have some leeway.

I look at Dynnie and he teaches me how to be free, how to be accepting, how to be loving, how to be patient, how to be limitless, how to smile, how to laugh.  He also teaches me that life without structure will be chaos and we need discipline to keep us focused.  He teaches me to follow through.  He teaches me to be committed to whatever task or whatever I say.  He teaches me possibilities and perseverance.  Needless to say that it appears that he is teaching me more than I am teaching him.  Who would've known that a year and 3 months after my son was born that Barack Hussein Obama II would be elected our first African American President.  Whatever your political alliances are,  it really does not matter for it will never ever take a way from this moment in history.  

Our President is the embodiment of our ability to overcome what challenges lay before you and the manifestation of our forefathers dreams.  When I look at the blessing that my son is to me and I look at the present, of who our President is.  I see his past and my son's future all at once.  For this to be February the so-called month of Love and Black History month -- the two tie in together just because of my love for my son and the historical relevance of our President both of them are young, gifted and black!

My son brings out the woman of excellence within me!  He makes me walk tall, stand proud, and stare at the world and say "I am an overcomer!!"  Sometimes I sit and think about of all I have gone through and how my God has been with me all the way.  I am a survivor y'all and I am not ashamed to admit it.  I am a survivor of verbal abuse, physical abuse, my own personal mental torments, economic challenges, health challenges, and just the ebb and flow of life.  I walk into my future knowing that I am anointed for whatever call of duty that God has for me.  I stand in my truth and force you to accept yours. Gone are the days of doubting who I am or where I am going.  There is a peace in just accepting your role in life and the direction it is going.

Isaiah 61
The Year of the LORD’s Favor
 1 The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me, 
   because the LORD has anointed me 
   to proclaim good news to the poor. 
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, 
   to proclaim freedom for the captives 
   and release from darkness for the prisoners,[a] 

2 to proclaim the year of the LORD’s favor 
   and the day of vengeance of our God, 
to comfort all who mourn, 
 3 and provide for those who grieve in Zion— 
to bestow on them a crown of beauty 
   instead of ashes, 
the oil of joy 
   instead of mourning, 
and a garment of praise 
   instead of a spirit of despair. 
They will be called mighty oaks, 
   a planting of the LORD 
   for the display of his splendor.

I am going to leave you with two video versions of young, gifted and black. Now I love my Nina Simone & Donny Hathway versions but since our Queen of Soul is facing health issues right now and in need of our prayers I selected Aretha Franklin.  The other version is just a fun version by Don Baron that I remember hearing in the 80's 

But wait there's more.....LOL!  Here's what I'll do for ya!  I"ll link the other's just in case you want to hear those instead.  

I know, I know how nice of me :-)  

Have a wonderful Valentines Day and Kiss & Hug somebody!  
I'm going to be kissing Dynnie!

Young Gift and Black
  1. Nina Simone
  2. Donny Hathaway
  3. Bob and Marcia ((FOR JACKIE))
  4. Big Daddy Kane ((for us 90s Hip-Hop lovers))


  1. Thank you for this beautiful testimony. It is interesting how many of us only focus on what we don't have and chase after it as opposed to being grateful for the blessings of the moment. Happy Belated Birthday and keep pressing forward!

  2. that was amazing love,i'm glad 2 see that u can open up 2 us, i'm here whenever u need 2 talk

  3. Fawn, your honesty is so refreshing, and inspirational!

  4. Hey Sis:
    I need you to know I always have problems signing in to your blog site. I know its bcuz I don't know what the heck i'm doing LOL. Anywho, I stopped by to tell you NOT ONLY ARE YOU BLESSED TO HAVE Dynnie but he is sooooo blessed to have YOU as his mommy & as an insie winsie sidenote, I AM ALSO BLESSED TO KNOW YOU...#Muaaahz

    ~NIP 77~
    Off to listen to the song with ((JACKIE)) LOL~~

  5. Fawn, what a wonderful message to read during this month of love and pride. Thanks for sharing your beautiful inspirational life story with us. Continue to be strong and finding happiness with the simple pleasures. Your son is a blessing to you and you're a blessing to others.

    BTW, Happy Belated Birthday! :-)