No matter the age sometimes a person can feel so unfulfilled without a mother's love. The pain of losing a mother is one of the strongest hurts a person can ever feel. Sometimes you push the pain away and don't immediately grieve, it may take months or even years for you to truly even weep that hard loss.
A mother's love is significant because if we look at the example of Mary in the Bible in how God used her as a conduit as the vessel to bring the life of Jesus into this world; How in panic Mary was when she realized that Jesus was not with her and Joseph as they traveled back to Nazareth and how she wept at the sight of her son on the cross. Mary knew that God had entrusted in her the safety, care and instruction of Jesus's life.
As a child when part of this pact is not completed the child at question emotionally, mentally, and spiritually suffers. This is why God gives Biblical instruction to parents in Proverbs 22: 6 "Train up a child in the way he should go, And even when he is old he will not depart from it."
At times there are extenuating circumstances that can not be controlled such as health issues with a parent and/or random death. In cases such as these it is my belief that God steps in and allows the Holy spirit to be a comforter and he provides a variety of people or maybe even one person to stand in the gap for the mother that is absent.
My mom has been heavy on my mind heavy this week, possibly because next week will be her 61st birthday and I miss her dearly, but in the midst God has provided me sooooo many women and friends that have stepped in and stepped up to help me evolve to where I am.
I know that my commitment to Christ would NOT be as strong if my mom were alive because my mother's faith would be my faith out of default. I'd like to to reassure all who have lost a mother or a parent in general to know that it is ok to feel down and work through those moments. Just don't stay there! Remember God knows his plan even when you don't. The days you want to quit, the days you want to give up, the days the pain is so bad you can't even utter a grunt! God KNOWS!
And if you have children, treasure every moment, I know I sure do. I post a lot of pictures of Dynzcil on my page because he is my joy! He is my Samuel and I am his Hannah! I love my boy so much and I am going to cross the earth to make sure he is provided for the best thing I ever did for him was have him dedicated to Christ at 3months old. He is NOT spoiled by far but Dynzcil has more joy and laughter in his one pinkie than most adults have in their whole body and I am so grateful.
Remember what I told you about the Fullness of time...well again in God's time we all will come into understanding of the things that trouble us so deeply but don't belabor on those issues, don't give the devil and opportunity to take control of your mental state of being.
Get the rest you need and then start a new. Keep pressing on, keep smiling and keep loving.
27 January, 2012
The Fullness of Time
I am the type of person that LOVES to celebrate the success and blessings of other people. I have watched my brother Chef Keith Rhodes from the age of 14 talk about how he wanted to own his own restaurant in the words of Chris Brown "Look at him now" owning two restaurants Catch Restaurant and Phun Seafood Bar, two food trucks an appearance on Top Chef and some work for Food Network.
I have watched my sister in law Angela Rhodes evolve into a woman of superb business acumen, organization and peace.
I have watched my best friend Lenita Henderson go to INDEPENDENT OVER COMER, owning her own home, car and a career promotion all whilst wrestling the tassels of being a single mother.
I have watched my sister in Christ Leanna Mulcare go to owner of an online jewelry boutique All Diva Things and senior programmer with Cisco.
I have watched my other sister in Christ Dana Williams go to a real certified MINISTER! ~~Real deal Holyfield.
I have watched my cousin Robert Tate go to a College Football Champion Coach!
I have watched my cousin Melissa Haithcox-Dennis to become Dr. Melissa Haithcox-Dennis.
I have watched my friend Eric Thomas aka E T The Hip Hop Preacher go from Youth Week of prayer speaker and College Student to Motivational Speaker, Author and soon to be Dr. Eric Thomas. Speaking to those who "Have the Power", so to speak.
When you learn to celebrate others in your life GENUINELY and not COVETOUS/ENVIOUSLY and truly rejoice in their comeuppance as passionate as they are about their blessing. You too will be blessed in YOUR TIME.
God speaks of the fullness of time. The fullness of time is not about seconds, minutes, hours, days, months or years. It is about the time when he deems that you have been proofed, tried and tested and now ready to be elevated to the next level. The people I listed above are just a few of those around me that I share as examples that have had their share of rainy, snowy, cloudy and downright dismal dark days. But all of them serve a RISEN Jesus and he KNOWS when it is right to say Keith, Angela, Lenita, Leanna, Dana, Robert, Melissa, Eric come on down and step into the destiny I have designed for you...but don't get content because I have more in store for you because there will be new trials that will be greater than before to excel you to even higher heights. Man's reward and accomplishments may be fame & fortune but Gods reward is about salvation and all of these people are ministering in their own way to the group they have been called to work through and for. So the next time you start whining about "when Lord and why Lord"
... Remember THE FULLNESS OF TIME!