10 yrs ago I met my sons father, while I lived in Philadelphia. He played professional basketball for the IBA, International Basketball Association. He was a very polite, kind and respectful man. Initially, all seemed fine he was still playing with his IBA team and we had no issues that I saw. We had a lot laughter and joy within our relationship. But considering, we had a commuting relationship (he lived out of state) how much was I really going to see? He finally injured out and came home that is really when it hit the fan.
I saw he was completely irresponsible with money and business affairs. He had no idea what he had in his accounts and we CONSTANTLY argued about bills. When Dynnie was born we had already broken up. We tried to make it work for 6months. The part I played, I could have been more understanding less sarcastic.
Now at 39, I am beyond the foolishness of my twenties, make much wiser decisions, treat men so much better and all around a different woman. I write this long epilogue to say, even if you change, the decisions you make effect and affect you for a lifetime. The blessing of my relationship was not just my son, but my integrity and character improved.
Be wise about every step you make. You can be on top today and in the line at social services by the end of the day. Life has a way of humbling us and I believe that the Lord allows certain situations in our lives to draw us closer to him.
I haven't always had the faith that I have now nor the character that I have now. I encourage you all on this last day on earth, LMBO. To evaluate and make every effort to make wiser decisions. The consequences of those decisions are far stretching.